Are you spending the holidays alone?   This is my first holiday season single, though I’ve been lonely on the holidays most of my life, even when surrounded by people.  I didn’t really realize it at the time, though.  Strange how that works, huh? I just spent Thanksgiving alone. Totally alone. I didn’t go anywhere. I […]

This post contains affiliate links, which means I’ll make a small profit if you purchase through the link.  This costs you nothing extra, but helps me pay for webhosting and such. One of my favorite childhood holiday memories is moving the advent calendar each day.  We had a simple felt one with numbered pockets and […]

Life after divorce has been full of reflection for me.  I’m 40 years old and on my own for the first time.  I left a relationship I’ve been in since I was 20. How did I get here? Well… My story isn’t unique.  Dysfunctional family, low self esteem, lack of self worth… I moved in […]

The thought of living alone terrified me.  It is what kept me in a marriage I wasn’t happy in for almost 20 years.  Prior to leaving my (now ex-) husband in April, I’d never lived alone.  Ever.  I’d never even spent more than a couple of nights alone while on business trips. My teenage daughter […]

I’ve been having some serious writer’s block.  It’s been a problem for a long time.   I hit emotional overload and the connection between my brain and my typing fingers has become buried in the sludge of thoughts, feelings, fears, regrets and grief. This is challenging for me because  not only is writing how I earn a living, […]

How long does it take to get divorced?  Two and a half minutes, in my fresh experience.  Nearly 19 years of marriage legally dissolved in under three minutes from appearing in front of the judge to walking out the door a free single woman. I moved out April 5.  The divorce was finalized October 4.  […]

LADIES! Listen up. If you are going to judge me for talking about sex toys, please stop reading this and go look at one of my Instant Pot or green smoothie recipes instead.  Beloved straight dude friends, go away.  Go read my love letter to a hot dog. Still there?  Pause whatever you’re doing and buy […]

My friend scored a 1/4 bushel of grape tomatoes for free. That’s a LOT of tomatoes! And because she’s an awesome friend she immediately declared them OURS. We were RICH in tomatoes! It was amazing.   We plotted and planned a weekend of sauce making.  She brought the tomatoes over to my house and we […]