• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar

Rambling Rach

  • Home
  • About
  • Food and Recipes
  • Lifestyle
  • Reviews
  • Journals, workbooks & more for living your best life!
  • A Few of My Favorite Things

Date Yourself: 5 Reasons You Should Go Out Alone

October 3, 2022 By Rambling Rach 1 Comment

This blog contains affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission from your purchases.

If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!

5 Reasons to date yourself!

When I left my 20 year relationship  my therapist kept encouraging to “date myself.”  He urged me to plan something special to do alone outside of the house once a week.  I lived in a summer rental cottage near the beach then.  These solo dates were usually a Sunday walk to nearby Disney’s Vero Beach Resort.  I’d chillax in a hammock with a book, maybe sneak into the hot tub, then treat myself to dinner:  usually a fruity cocktail and a cheese plate.

I was going through some really hard stuff.  I usually didn’t want to go out.  Sadness, worry, guilt, and emotional exhaustion weighed heavily.  Moping on the couch was so much easier than making the moves to go out alone (which mostly entailed getting off the couch).

But I did it anyway because I knew my therapist was going to ask me.

And I always felt better once I left the house.

I’ve continued the practice of dating myself, though it’s no longer a scheduled weekly event. However, since it’s been a while since I took myself on a date, I think I’ll get back to the weekly habit!  I’m able to find my balance again after I go out alone.

Why you should go out alone and date yourself

5 reasons to go out alone

  1. Enjoy your own company.  No small talk needed.  Do exactly what you want to do.  No worries about anyone else.
  2. Be alone in your thoughts.  How often do we truly have quiet to just be in our heads without a dozen other channels going – kids, coworkers, bosses, partners, parents, pets, tv, Youtube, etc.  Enjoy the peace to listen to what’s going on in your own head.
  3. People watch.  Eavesdrop on conversations.  Make up stories about people at other tables.  Get inspiration from people enjoying life.
  4. Eat whatever you want.  And then eat it all by yourself with no one picking off your plate.
  5. Try something new.   The best way to figure out if you like something is to experience it alone.  The only opinion to absorb in is your own.  If you like it, do it more.  Hate it?  Leave without upsetting anyone.

Why you should date yourself

Solo date ideas

YOU ARE AWESOME, AMAZING AND WORTHY.

In the words of Lizzo from her song Soulmate:

“Look up in the mirror like, ‘Yeah, she the one.’ 

And she never tell me to exercise. We always get extra fries. And you know the sex is fire.

And I gotta testify I get flowers every Sunday. I’ma marry me one day.

True love ain’t somethin’ you can buy yourself. True love finally happens when you by yourself.

So if you by yourself, then go and buy yourself another round from the bottle on the higher shelf.

‘Cause I’m my own soulmate
I know how to love me
I know that I’m always gonna hold me down (Always gonna hold me down)

Listen to Lizzo. Be your own soulmate.

13 easy date ideas to take yourself on

13 Solo Dates to Take Yourself On Today!
  • Coffee
  • Museum
  • Watch the sunrise
  • Walk in the park
  • Movies
  • Dinner
  • Concert
  • Picnic on the beach
  • Brunch
  • Theater
  • Roller derby
  • Antiquing
  • Zoo

Finish the date with a nice bubble bath, dancing around your bedroom (I suggest Lizzo, of course) and then a solo romp in bed! (Go ahead and order yourself a Womanizer right now for this!)

Like this post? Please share it!

Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Tiktok.

ALSO CHECK OUT:

  • My Healing Community
  • Muffins, Mumus & Magic event
  • About Rach
  • Guided Emotional Wellness Journals

Here are some other posts you might like from my adventures of getting to know myself:

  • Womanizer Review
  • Womanizer vs Satisfyer
  • Oatmeal clogs and creepy plumbers
  • Couch surfing at 40
  • Why Straight Women Like Gay Porn
  • I got a tea leaf reading and she said I should cheat
  • How to make the perfect hot dog 
  • 7 lessons from a dive bar
Why you should date yourself
  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on StumbleUpon (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)
  • Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window)

Related

Filed Under: Lifestyle Tagged With: relationships

Previous Post: « Glitter Shoes Will Bring Joy – to You and Everyone Else!
Next Post: 21 Plus-Size Halloween Costumes from Amazon »

Reader Interactions

Trackbacks

  1. Paula Deen's Creek House Restaurant Review - Rambling Rach says:
    February 3, 2020 at 9:48 pm

    […] decided to take myself to Paula Deen’s Creek House for dinner on a Saturday night. I arrived around 6 p.m. There was […]

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Recipe Rating




This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Primary Sidebar

Welcome!

Are you (or have you ever been) a self described hot mess? Welcome! This is your place. You’re with your people. If you appreciate honesty, unfiltered realness and looking for the humor even in dark times, you’ll be quite comfortable here! Rambling Rach is a lifestyle blog devoted to healing and finding life beyond marriage and motherhood. Read More…

Connect

Recent Comments

  • Rambling Rach on Don Cesar Hotel Review: Reasons to stay Solo
  • Diana on Don Cesar Hotel Review: Reasons to stay Solo
  • Anonymous on What to Do When You Hate Football And Everyone Else Watches

Copyright © 2023 All Rights Reserved · Shrinking Momster Disclosure and Privacy

 

Loading Comments...